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  • Writer's pictureNicholas Clay


What is our pain-body? Eckhart Tolle describes it best, “It is an accumulation of painful life experience that was not fully faced and accepted in the moment it arose. It leaves behind an energy form of emotional pain. It comes together with other energy forms from other instances, and so after some years, you have a “pain-body,” an energy entity consisting of old emotion.”

If two individuals entering an intersection both have high pain-bodies, there is a higher probability that there will be an accident. Subconsciously, they desire it; their pain-body craves and feeds from it like a parasite feeding off its host. It is important that we remain mindful of our thoughts, as our thoughts directly affect our day-to-day lives in a tangible way, just as oxygen does. Both are unseen, and both have an important and direct impact on our lives.

I hope we agree that the energy that makes up our pain body is an unpleasant and unwanted energy. If so, the next question is, how do we get rid of it? Our answer is simple, although not easy. In one sense, we get rid of it by forgiving ourselves and others. Forgiveness is a crucial part of being present and letting go of a “moment” that no longer exists, except for in our thoughts. Attempting to do so can bring about resistance from our ego and a feeling that we are losing a part of ourselves. We can even defend our pain and attach ourselves to it as it becomes us. When our pain becomes who we are, releasing it becomes all that more difficult as we can then feel like we are losing a part of ourselves, or that we are not safe to do so.

What pain are you harboring in your pain-body? When was the last time you fed it? When will you forgive, and do you know what it is to forgive so that you can move a step closer to being present?

Presence is a vibrant, joyous & peaceful state. When we begin to wake up, we begin to see the layers of our identity that once were and no longer needed. Our identity (ego) was constructed from a state of survival designed to protect us from harm and uses emotional pain as its weapon of illusionary control. The ego cares only about survival and is not capable of providing us with a life of love, joy, and peace. It also does not do so well with creating healthy intimate relationships. To free ourselves from our pain body is to move in the direction of conscious expansion, which is moving away from survival and expanding towards a state of thriving.  


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